Kitchen Convos
Honest, authentic guidance and practical steps for restoration after betrayal.
Whether you're in the beginning stages of discovery and disclosure, or you are a couple years in and just trying to make new progress, this course is for you!
Course Curriculum
Welcome!
- Welcome & Get Started
Track 1: FOUNDATIONS
- Our Story
- Resources Part 1
- Resources Part 2
- Schools of Thought
- Life After Disclosure
- WhiteBoard Session - Data v. Emotion
Track 2: THE ROLLER COASTER
- Grieving
- Anger
- Helping Her Grieve
- WhiteBoard Session - Grieving Boat
- WhiteBoard Session - Spring Loaded
- Grieving for Guys
Track 3: BEHIND THE SCENES
- Shame
- The 3 I's and 3 S's
- Broken Love
- WhiteBoard Session - Neural Chemistry
- WhiteBoard Session - Acting Out Cycle
- WhiteBoard Session - Acting In
- WhiteBoard Session - Life without True
- Intimacy
Track 4: TOOLS FOR RELATIONAL RESTORATION
- Ongoing Disclosure
- Triggers Part 1
- Triggers Part 2
- FITNAP
- Measuring Progress
Track 5: LIGHT AT THE END OF THE TUNNEL
- Intimacy is the Antidote
- WhiteBoard Session - Building Blocks
- Rebuilding Trust - Part 1
- Rebuilding Trust - Part 2
- Forgiveness - Part 1
- Forgiveness - Part 2
- Redemption
- Protecting Our Kids
- Closing
Track 6: THE LIGHTER SIDE
- Bloopers
Looking for the road to freedom and true intimacy? Then look no further. Jason and Shelley will show you the way, shining a spotlight on all of the obstacles and stumbling blocks along the path. Make no mistake: this is no cakewalk. The road will, many days, seem to be long and hard - some obstacles may even appear unsurmountable. But Jason and Shelley have been there before, and their story demonstrates that recovery and reconciliation is possible. If you commit yourself to the process they outline in these videos, their story could be yours, too.
- The Johnson's, USA
About Us
Jason Martinkus
After sexual addiction almost took his life and marriage, Jason was called to help other men. He received a Bachelors degree in Finance from the University of Oklahoma and worked in the corporate world for companies such as Arthur Andersen and Interstate Batteries. After leaving corporate and going into ministry, he went back to school and received a Masters in Counseling from Denver Seminary. Today he is a Board Certified Coach, the former national speaker for the Every Man’s Battle workshops and President of Redemptive Living, a Denver-based coaching and speaking ministry. He has dedicated his life to helping men find freedom from sexual integrity issues and marriages find redemption beyond betrayal. His first book, Worthy of Her Trust (Waterbrook Press) released in 2014, followed by the Summit Devotional and Understanding and Loving Someone with Sexual Addiction in 2018. Jason, his wife Shelley and their 3 boys call Denver home.
Shelley Martinkus
Shelley is a wife to Jason and mom to three boys. Her world changed forever when she found out about her husband’s sexual addiction. God used Jason’s betrayal as a catalyst for Shelley to look at her own life and start to heal all the broken pieces she saw staring back at her. Shelley and Jason are now 20 years into their journey and Shelley likes to say that her relationship with God, with Jason, and with others is better because of what she has been through. She has written one book - Rescued and co-authored two books - Worthy of Her Trust and Understanding and Loving a Person with Sexual Addiction. She calls Colorado home although a part of her heart will always reside in Texas, her native homeland.
After 13+ years in the process, helping thousands of people along the way, we’ve identified the key challenges that couples face in restoring their marriage and the best ways to get through them. Let us walk a few steps of the journey with you!
KitchenConvos is an absolutely unparalleled resource for couples going through recovery and healing from sexual betrayal or addiction. The series’ easy-to-follow, “bite-sized” modules cover all the bases of “his,” “her” and “our” healing. Along the way, the pain and messiness of the process are validated as Jason and Shelley— with humility, vulnerability, and sometimes, humour—interweave their own story. No matter what stage of the journey a couple are in, if they’re wanting to tackle healing together, this is the first resource I point them to.
- Lisa Taylor, New Zealand
Certified Pastoral Sex Addiction Specialist, Author - Beyond Betrayal: How God is Healing Women (and Couples) from Sexual Infidelity
Frequently Asked Questions
What types of "betrayal" will this course address?
This course is borne out of our story and covers a range of sexual integrity issues. Whether lust, fantasy, pornography, strip clubs, prostitutes, emotional affairs or physical affairs this course is designed to help.
Is the advice you're giving Christ centered?
Absolutely! We’re approaching this with God at the center of the relationship, and using the Biblical model of men as servant leaders, paving the way for marital restoration.
Will this course replace counseling?
No. This course is not intended to replace your counselor. Some people use the course as their first line of help before they can land in a counselor's office. For others it adds to what they are already receiving. Our hope is to function more as a mentor couple. Hopefully we can help you avoid some of the pitfalls we fell into, and also to accelerate your process where we ended up dragging it out.
Will I have access to all the videos immediately?
Yes! You’ll have instant access to 9+ hours of video as soon as you register. You’ll also be able to download the workbook which includes all the key takeaways, scripture and discussion questions for husbands, wives and both together.. In addition, you’ll be notified any time a new video is posted.
